Time is a great healer for some and for others it can make them brood and never get through their past. There was a time when I wasn't sure I would get to the latter part of the first sentence and get to the healing part.
I was talking to a friend the other day about random stuff as you do, and then got to talking about my breakdown/depression that I had. I've never had a problem talking about it really and have found that it helps me to talk about it. It's part of who I am, it happened to me and I wouldn't be the person I am now without it. I'm stronger in myself than before it happened it really was my "clearout" as I prefer to call it.
Then I said to my friend "when it happened last year..." and then I stopped. It was now 2011. My breakdown was in 2009. Through 2010 I had been saying "last year" and now it was weird to say "when it happened two years ago".
Who am I trying to convince that I feel better? Does saying my breakdown and when it happened mean that people won't judge me and think I'm still ill? So why do I say when it happened? Why do I focus on it? No one else says to me the date of it, so why should I?
Sure I'll never forget it and it always remain a piece of my life but I'm not going to dwell on when it happened. I hadn't realised a simple move into 2011 and a phrase would make me realise even more so that life is about the now and the future.